The Door in the Wall

When I write these posts and emails, my intention is usually to provide as much value to as many people as possible. Today, my intention is different. This is meant for someone really specific. Here’s who I’m looking to speak to: You have a calling to do purpose driven work in the world, as a coach, counselor, healer, or transformational …

The Real Truth About Marketing

I have a lot of challenges. I wait until the last minute to do critical things. My office is a complete mess. And I’m probably at least a little bit spectrum. I drive my team – and Nicole – nuts. At the same time, I’m a loving husband and father. I’m courageous with my choices. I care deeply. And I …

The Transformation Age

With all that’s going on right now, it’s easy to look at the world and get pulled into fear, upset or anger. But while it’s extremely important to be clear on what we’re standing for, when we get sucked into being against, we just add fuel to the fire. So instead, let’s take a step back, and look at what’s …

How do you prepare for a speech that scares you?

I recently gave a speech that really scared me, because of how important the audience was, how much I wanted them to like me, and how badly I wanted the speech to go well. It was one of the two biggest speeches I’ve been asked to give so far. The good news is that I didn’t freeze up and die …

When the Soul Seeks Stillness

As you might have noticed, I’ve been rather quiet this last year, and the last few months in particular. I haven’t sent many emails. I haven’t done a good job of connecting. I haven’t been active on Facebook. I haven’t even finished the new website we started. It hasn’t been for a lack of desire. It hasn’t been for a …

The Evolution of Fear

As I’ve been working on the second edition of Yes Yes Hell No, Nicole suggested I look at The Hero’s Journey by Joseph Campbell. It blew my mind. It was like learning a new language. For the first time, I started to understand the ocean of archetypes she swims in. I still don’t think in archetypes. My computer-science-everything-goes-in-its-own-box-brain doesn’t work …

The Real Reason We Procrastinate

Ever since high school, I’ve struggled with procrastination. And for more than twenty years, I assumed that my problem was that I was lazy, unmotivated, or unworthy. That sounded good, but it just wasn’t true. Procrastination isn’t a character flaw. It’s the byproduct of an inner conflict: a part of us wants to do something and another part doesn’t. And …

The Practice of Leaping and Being Caught

Faith has been one of the most challenging topics in my life. I was raised in a devoutly religious family. As an intellectual teenager, I began to question the beliefs I’d been raised with and found that I couldn’t reconcile them with my scientific worldview. So when I moved out to go to college, I also moved away from my …

Why Big People Settle for Small Goals

As an executive coach and leadership consultant, I’ve had the honor of working with a host of amazing clients, including corporate executives, best-selling authors, private equity magnates, and high flying entrepreneurs. In doing so, I’ve found that even the most successful people have areas where they feel insecure, inadequate or stuck. Even the strongest leaders have choices they struggle over …

It’s About Willingness Not Worthiness

Do you feel called to do something great in the world? It doesn’t matter how big your dream is – it could be to help one person, create a thriving practice, love your children, start a company, or write a best selling book. And if you’re even partly following your purpose, I’m going to make a crazy, random guess about …